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by: Asti Hayan Have you ever felt the need to say "yes" to everything and to always please others? Or do you easily fall under others' influence and cannot set your own boundaries? Sadly, many people fall into this pattern, and it is called self-abandonment.  Self-abandonment means that you reject or suppress your own emotion and ignore part of yourself while overvaluing others' opinions . Self-abandonment is a very toxic behavior that sometimes we do unconsciously.  Some of the signs of self-abandonment are:  1. People-pleasing 2. Irrational perfectionism 3. Feel small around others 4. Constant overthinking 5. Lack of boundaries 6. Conceal who you really are When you do those things above, it means you have abandoned yourself. You might even shape-shift into someone you are not. It might feel easy at first, but when you do this continuously, you will exhaust yourself as you play a role that isn't yours. Self-abandonment is a learned behavior. Thus, with enough

by: Ilma Rosyidah The word manifestation is now massively used by many to claim a certain energy, picture of success, or life achievement. Manifestation is closely related to the term “Law of Attraction” which generally means controlling the energy of your thoughts to attract specific results into reality. It signifies that your positive thoughts will bring positive results and vice versa. In some ways, you might doubt that your belief system can really make changes in your life. But this law of attraction comes up with reasonable concepts and ways to adopt it in your life. If you are dealing with some kind of unhelpful thoughts that drag you to be pessimistic, anxious, and overthink, you should consider manifestation or the law of attraction as a way to get better. Have you ever been told by the elders to not say something bad and be careful of everything you say because the universe could make it come true? A similar concept is applied in the law of attraction. Positive thinking attr

  by: Millie Annabeth source: redbookmag.com I know my place. And it is my duty to fight for the kingdom and protect the emperor. I will bring honor to us all. Loyal, Brave, and Truth. Mulan is a 1998 American animated musical adventure film about Hua Mulan, a clumsy girl who struggles to fit in and eventually develops into a strong and wonderful hero. She leaves her hometown to join the army to save her father's life. She has to pretend to be a man and is having a difficult time with the training. She inspires us because she goes from absolutely feeling like she doesn't belong anywhere to discovering her true self and becoming a warrior. This is an animated film, yet it has real lessons that might just help your life. Determination and perseverance are what get you through  Mulan's eyes show determination several times during the film. Life's circumstances have knocked her down several times. She could have given up and become a victim, but she chose to adjust her ment

by: Cindy Aurelia source: Instagram @pevpearce source: Instagram @pevpearce Not too long ago, a video of Pevita Pearce showing her muscular arms on camera was circulating online. Many believe this video was directed at people who think that muscular women are not feminine— because muscles are generally labeled “manly.” In the caption, she stated, “For all my friends who like workouts and weight lifts... Girl, You do You and f- what other people say,"  The video has been viewed more than 2 million times on Instagram, and it supports all muscular women who enjoy this type of activity. The responses were mainly positive comments appreciating Pevita who brought up this awareness to the public. This was one of the many heartening acts Pevita Pearce has brought to the internet. Let’s find out more! Pevita Cleo Eileen Pearce is a multitalented actress, presenter, model, entrepreneur, and book author. Due to her love of art, fashion, and acting, she started her career early in the entert

by: Beth Victoria Suwito  Have you ever made a mistake? If you have, then welcome to the club. Everyone has made mistakes because we are all just humans who make mistakes. Mistakes are simply a part of everyone’s daily routines. It’s a normal thing.  That’s why you shouldn’t dwell on the mistakes you’ve made. Regretting things and feeling sorry for yourself won’t do much. What you have to do is learn from them. Treat those mistakes like a lesson. Don’t beat yourself up over a small mistake. In order to grow, you have to learn from them.  Another thing is that you should also be patient with other people’s mistakes. Remember that it’s a human thing. People can’t be perfect. Everyone is learning. That’s why you should be patient with them.  Mistakes are just life’s little pebbles. You can stumble across them and you can trip from them. It’s not a huge boulder that’ll stop you from reaching your dreams. It’s a small mishap that could give you a valuable lesson.  Don’t think of mistakes as

  by: Chesilya Putri My mother once said to me, "Even though life as a woman is often a second-class cluster, you should still live and shine." Back then, I didn't really understand what she meant, but as I grew into a woman who could only rely on herself, I finally did. Women being a second-class cluster means people will try to restrict women from flapping their wings. The worst thing is how passive women are romanticized, violence is naturalized, and revives a culture of mutual support. I know women's hardships don't even come from themselves. Let her be, let her shine, let her be whatever she wants, leave her alone and see how she will bloom and grow. Every woman has beauty, a beauty that is not a debt that she has to pay to anyone. Husband, mother, father, friend, sibling, or anyone. Let her be an independent woman who knows where her life is going, who knows what she wants, and who is firm about her boundaries. Women are not just secondary creatures created

  by: Nala Zakina Pepatah “Man Jadda Wa Jadda” yang berarti 'bersungguh-sungguhlah maka kamu akan berhasil' menjadi ciri khas dalam novel trilogi ‘Negeri 5 Menara’ karya Ahmad Fuadi, novel yang diinspirasi dari kisah nyata sang penulis. Melalui Alif, bocah asal Minangkabau yang bertekad untuk menjelajahi benua Amerika menjadi kenyataan. Hal tersebut tak lepas dari tekad membara seorang anak rantau. Banyak pelajaran yang bisa dipetik dari novel tersebut. Khususnya bagi kita, generasi muda yang mungkin saat ini sedang berada jauh dari keluarga dan kampung halaman, merantau untuk mendapat bekal pengetahuan di masa depan. Apa pun latar belakang dan kondisi keluarga, ketika berani meninggalkan rumah, demi mencari ilmu pengetahuan merupakan sebuah pengalaman berharga dan kebanggaan tersendiri. Bagi siapapun yang sedang jauh dari keluarga, kamu kuat dan hebat. Ada semacam perisai yang menjadi identitasmu. Kamu mungkin merasa berbeda atau tidak percaya diri ketika berada di lingkungan